You have preconceptions and biases. If you have preconceptions and biases about someone, it can stop you from listening to them. “For example, I may know you to be a person who has no experience in this area, therefore, it’s hard to listen to you because I don’t think you know what you’re talking about,” says Halstead.
Being a good listener means focusing on the person who’s speaking, not to interrupt or respond but rather just to hear them out. Good listeners play a more passive speaking role in the conversation, but they actively engage with the other person using body language and follow-up questions.
Effective listening is actively absorbing the information given to you by a speaker, showing that you are listening and interested, and providing feedback to the speaker so that he or she knows the message was received.
There are three steps to Practical Listening: Intention, Attention and Retention. Let’s spend a moment exploring each of these elements.
You react emotionally
If you are being criticized, emotions are triggered, and it is natural to get defensive and not listen to what the person is saying. This can also happen if a person is talking about something you don’t agree with.
If you’ve ever dealt with a bad listener, you know how frustrating it can be. Making eye contact and responding to the speaker doesn’t necessarily mean you’re listening to what they have to say. Blinking excessively, making too much eye contact, and interrupting people are all signs you’re not a great listener.
Listening is the ability to accurately receive and interpret messages in the communication process. • Listening is key to all effective communication, without. the ability to listen effectively messages are easily misunderstood. • Listening is one of the most important skills you can have.
The listening process involves four stages: receiving, understanding, evaluating, and responding.
The four main causes of poor listening is not concentrating “spare brain time”, listening too hard and missing the main details and points, jumping to conclusions, and focusing on delivery and personal appearance.
Passive listening is little more than hearing. Passive listening is listening without reacting: allowing someone to speak, without interrupting. … Passive listening is one-way communication where the receiver doesn’t provide feedback or ask questions and may or may not understand the sender’s message.
So, one reason why someone isn’t listening to you can be because you are not open to other ideas, are interruptive, and aren’t a great listener yourself. You’ll eventually lose the attention of a person whose views you don’t take into consideration.
A bad listener passively absorbs what they’re told before launching into their own unrelated anecdote. This results in the speaker not actually feeling heard or understood at all. At best, it’s a little rude. At worst, you might miss signs of real issues.
These bad listening practices include interrupting, eavesdropping, aggressive listening, narcissistic listening, defensive listening, selective listening, insensitive listening, and pseudo-listening.