When people discuss toxic parents they are typically describing parents who consistently behave in ways that cause guilt, fear, or obligation in their children. … And that means that they may make mistakes, yell too much, or do potentially damaging things to their kids — even unintentionally.
Listen to what they have to say and validate how they feel. One way to support each other’s feelings is to say, “I sense you are upset,” or, “I feel your passion over this issue.” During these conversations keep in mind tip #1 (it’s about the child).
It’s completely normal, and expected really, to despise your parents when they’ve abused or abandoned you. Or even if they’ve never laid a hand on you but held you to unrealistic expectations or forced you to live a life you don’t desire.
The reason why some mothers hate their daughters is the dissatisfaction with their own lives. … Unlike the stereotype of being loving and sacrificial, mothers are humans too. They have dreams, ambitions and choices apart from motherhood and they do feel hurt to lose them all at once.
“Children who are not raised in safe, loving, respectful, and consistent environments tend to grow up feeling very unsafe and untrusting,” explains Manly. As a result, they tend to experience challenges trusting themselves and others throughout life.
Choose someone you feel comfortable talking to and who you know will not turn around and repeat what you said to your parents. Try to avoid becoming too dependent on this person for your emotional needs. Just talk when you need someone to listen to you.
Even if it seems like your parents hate you, deep down you know they’re hard on you and have high expectations because they love you. They want you to grow up with the right lessons and morals. You might think they hate you because they grounded you, but when they punish you, they’re trying to teach you responsibility.
An Overview. Parental manipulation of children can be considered a form of brainwashing. One parent tries to target the other parent, ultimately undermining the chances for a healthy relationship with the other. In the worst cases, the child will reject the other parent completely.