Use consistent, logical consequences. Kids need to know what to expect when they don’t listen. Listen to your child’s feelings and ask them kindly rather than in anger what’s going on. Acknowledge their side, and you can still follow through with a consequence.
Generally speaking, you can’t effectively discipline a child until they’re at least 2 years old — about the same time your toddler-age kid is ready for potty training. “If they’re ready for potty training, they’re ready for consequences,” Pearlman says.
Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.
Another reason some students don’t speak up in class is that they feel other students’ opinion matter more. They feel that their own perspective on the material isn’t very valuable so there’s no point in sharing. This feeling often stems from insecurity or social anxiety.
1. You’re talking too much. This is the number one reason I see students start to tune out their teachers. … Think about how much of a given school day are you requiring your students to give you their undivided, listening attention.
It’s a common refrain from parents, “My preschooler just doesn’t listen.” Four-year-olds are active and interested in the world around them. They need to explore and try new things, so it’s common for children this age to test limits and it can seem as if they are not listening to mom and dad.
Smacking is inappropriate before 15 months of age and is usually not necessary until after 18 months. … After 10 months of age, one slap to the hand of a stubborn crawler or toddler may be necessary to stop serious misbehavior when distraction and removal have failed.
Smacking is typically defined as “the use of physical force with the intention of causing a child to experience pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correcting or controlling the child’s behaviour”.
These sudden changes may be a sign of stress, anxiety, or depression. … You are worried that your teenager is in her room a lot. Her request for more privacy might be fine, but try to understand why she wants to be left alone, and specifically what it is that she is doing in her room.
Emotional abuse happens when a child is repeatedly made to feel worthless, unloved, alone or scared. Also known as psychological or verbal abuse, it is the most common form of child abuse. It can include constant rejection, hostility, teasing, bullying, yelling, criticism and exposure to family violence.
It’s been shown to have long-term effects, like anxiety, low self-esteem, and increased aggression. It also makes children more susceptible to bullying since their understanding of healthy boundaries and self-respect are skewed.
Listen actively to others.
Your peers will respect you if you are someone whom people can come to and feel like they are being genuinely heard. If a friend or classmate wants to talk to you about something, give them your full attention, make eye contact, and demonstrate empathy.
Spend a few minutes every day talking about your favorite topics in front of a mirror. As you gain more confidence, talk in front of your closest friends and see what they have to say. Once you feel confident, start speaking in places with more people and eventually, speaking up in class will become easy.
1. They’ve been trained to. If your child won’t listen it’s because they have been trained that their parents don’t really mean what they says unless they’re yelling. So they tune you out or don’t act until you get frustrated enough that you start yelling.